Skill 09. Non-Judgmental Listening

Do you know we verbally interrupt one another every 12-seconds during our daily conversations? In other words, if you’re talking to me, I’ll butt in every 12-seconds with a comment of my own and generally that comment is a judgment or evaluation of what you’ve said. Like a judge in the courtroom, we pound our gavel and pronounce judgment every 12-seconds during conversations. “You’re wrong!” “I wouldn’t do that.” “You’re right, but…” “That reminds me of a story…”

So the next time you’re in a conversation, try listening for 60-seconds WITHOUT TALKING.  Listen to discover something new and not to judge or evaluate the speaker.

Remember to occasionally assume the role of the silent, attentive therapist and not the courtroom judge with raised gavel. Listen non-judgmentally for 60-seconds without interrupting and see what unfolds. It just might be the heart of the speaker.

Now return to the world and listen silently for 60-seconds if the opportunity arises.


Strength and honor.