Skill 17. Reframing Others

  Marcel Proust once observed that, “The true journey of discovery consists not in seeing new lands but in seeing with new eyes.” One way you can really help and encourage others is to reframe their negative frame of an event with a positive reframe.

You can reframe any event with the phrase, “Well, another way of looking at this is…”

“I didn’t get a second interview for the job and I’m terribly upset.”
(Your reframe). “Well, another way of looking at this is that you gained more interviewing experience and this will increase you chances of success next time.”

People don’t have to agree with your positive reframe, but at least you planted the seed for a new interpretation or frame on the event. Even if they don’t see it your way, at least you’ve stretched your mind and imagination to see with new eyes. Catch the reframe?

Now return to the world and see if you can offer a positive reframe to a friend’s complaint.

Skill: REFRAME a friend’s complaint.

Strength and honor.